Y’all, marriage is hard work. Sometimes. I love being married. Yes, I’ve only been married for 6 months, but we’ve had a lot happen in that time. Things we didn’t plan for– like getting pregnant twice and miscarrying twice. Anyone who has miscarried or lost a baby understand…there’s a lot of emotions- good and bad- that happen in that time. But do you know what the biggest thing I’ve learned in the short time I’ve been married?
Trying your hardest…your best efforts….they aren’t good enough.
As with anything in life- trying our hardest, doing our best, isn’t going to cut it. We need lots of help, lots of grace. Grace given from your spouse, given to your spouse and grace from God!
You have to lean fully, wholly, on Christ. A marriage will not work without Him. It won’t. And we’re not suppose to carry the weight of our whole marriage on our shoulders. Or feel like we can’t give unless we will get something back. Marriage is not 50/50. It will crumble that way. It has to be 100/100 with both the husband and wife leaning on Christ for fulfillment and complete peace.
Because, you know what? Your spouse isn’t perfect. And I don’t figure you are either. So, for the sake of your marriage (and the sanity of yourself and your spouse), look to Christ for fulfillment and lean fully on Him.
Oh, and show lots of grace. And love.
Because Christ shows you grace and love. Your spouse may not show you grace and love, but you are still called to give it to them.
Single people– marriage is great, but it’s not perfect. Just like anything else, it has it’s ups and downs.
Enjoy life– where ever God has put you. He put you there for a reason.
P.S. I have the most loving, grace-showing husband. And I am so thankful. ❤